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Take a moment to be grateful
Even in difficult times we have things to be grateful for. As a counsellor I find gratitude exercises to be positive and very powerful for clients.
Gratitude can be as simple as being grateful for a sunny day or as complex as gratitude for the opportunity to find your way through an emotional struggle or serious illness. People often spend time thinking about what they are not grateful for but there is quite a shift when we look at the good things in our lives instead of the negative.
Robert Emmons, a leading scientific expert on gratitude looks at the physical, social and psychological benefits of gratitude in Why Gratitude Is Good. His research finds that gratitude can help us have more restorative sleep, be happier and more connected.
In 10 Ways to Be More Grateful Emmons provides suggestions on how we can integrate gratitude into our daily living. In an inspiring Ted Talk by Benadictine monk David Steindl-Rast the answer is simple “Want to Be Happy? Be Grateful.”
So to help you get going, we’ve added to the Lidkea Stob, Gratitude board on Pinterest some great strategies to choose from. Perhaps a 7 day gratitude challenge or the creation of a happiness jar.
So get started, don’t wait, find your way to a more relaxed and happier you. The moment is now!
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Don’t Believe Everything You Think
Negative thoughts can impact our daily lives. They can be barriers to our success, they can stop us from trying something new and they can feed us false information.
A negative thought can start out small and seemingly harmless but the more our mind nurtures it the thought takes on a life of it’s own and multiplies becoming enormous!
You may feel you are fighting an uphill battle because yes the world is full of negativity as the media constantly likes to remind you. The world however is also filled with positivity and we get to choose what we would like to see more of in our life.
Is our thought real or based in fact……or Do we know this to be true? What evidence do we have to support it? Is there another explanation? What positive thought about this might counterbalance the negative one?
Tackle that negative thought early before it is joined by friends. Choose to implement strategies that embrace the positive over the negative.
On a site called Tiny Buddha an article by Michelle Uy, gives 10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy. She shares ideas about making a gratitude list or one of my personal favorites, remembering we are not perfect and not dwelling on our mistakes. We can be our worst critic even in adulthood, it is as though we go back to our childhood and that test that we wrote and that question we think we should have gotten right. What about choosing to celebrate the good things we have done and looking at the things we have learned along the way?!
The inner critic is explored in How Negative Thoughts are Ruining Your Life by Lisa Firestone Ph D, from Psychology Today. They support the idea of self reflection and mindful living to be important ingredients in finding happiness or more positivity in our lives.
If we dig a little more on the internet we find that there are sites dedicated to the positive. You can take the Positivity Self Test to find out what your positivity to negativity score is. You can check out a writer’s take on Benjamin Franklin’s daily journal. Ben started each day with a morning question, What good shall I do today? and ended the day with What good have I done today? Tim Goessling on the Good Men Project, shares with us how he matched up on I Lived A Day According to Ben Franklin’s Schedule and It Changed My Life.
If you are tech savvy and like to use apps there are of course apps to keep us on track in our journey to embrace happiness and positivity. Happify (free in iTunes) and Positive Thinking by TappCoder (Android and Apple) are just a couple I came across. If you are a reader then a great read is The Happiness Project and Happy at Home by author Gretchen Rubin. So be kind to yourself and make a choice, a choice to see more positive and to let happiness into your life.
